Monday, September 17, 2007

My Problem Child


Does this look like the face of trouble, I ask you? Ashton had another bad day at school today. Her teacher said she was hitting and pulling hair...A LOT! She said that the boys in the class are pretty low key and that Ashton is the instegator. I have the problem child??? Me, the perfect mom, has a problem child? I'm kidding on that perfect mom thing. I mean, I'm good, but I'm not perfect. Okay, as a former teacher talking here, I don't want to have "THAT KID" and I don't want to be "THAT MOM" either. So I'm trying to decide what would be the best way to handle this situation. If others were saying the same thing, I wouldn't be so puzzled or surprised by this report, but she only gets GOOD reports at the church nursery (where she spends about 6 hours a week) and I've seen her interact with LOTS of other kids at the park, at indoor playgrounds, at play groups and at friends' houses and I've NEVER seen her be the bully, but rather very friendly and sociable. I even called two friends who have kept her for me recently, who also have little ones of their own for her to play with, and they also said she has never been any trouble. She always gets along with everyone just fine. So it really makes me wonder what is so different about this particular environment that brings out the aggression in her. I don't want to make excuses for her. I know the 2nd born tends to be a little tougher. She's had to fight for her rights all her little life! But even at home with sister, she's rarely the one that hits or pulls hair (at least not without a good reason!) Don't get me wrong, she can hold her own and she's defintely got a mind of her own, but the reports I'm getting seem so out of character to me. I'm going to talk to her on Wednesday when I go pick up Lexi from school. I want to give her a few more weeks and see if we can work together to fix this problem, but if that doesn't work I fear she may be kicked out of school or worse...a 2 yr old dropout!!! Oh and just in case you forgot...HER DADDY IS A CHILDREN'S PASTOR!

9 comments:

Txagmel said...

Hmmm that does sound strange! I would wait a few weeks, like you said, and see if that helps. She might just feel uncomfortable which is bringing that out in her. I would ask her teacher to watch and see if she can find a pattern for the behavior- specific times of the day, what activity or routine they are doing when this occurs, the kids this happens with, etc. Maybe she can pin-point some triggers for the acting out? There has to be a reason and hopefully her teacher can find it! Keep us posted! :-)

Becky K said...

See what Ashton says when you talk to her. There may be another reason....like the kids that the teacher just isn't seeing or maybe she is taking it differently than Ashton. I am sure you will get the answer after your talk - don't worry!! Just use your teacher mind and investigate more than her current teacher is.

AggielandMommy said...

Well, like you said, she has a history of good behavior. I am inclined to think there is a trigger. I agree w/txagmel, see if there's a pattern. Does she say she likes going to school or does she dislike it altogether? Maybe since she has figured out that she goes there regularly, she is letting you know she doesn't like it.

mom2iande said...

does the preschool have a little window where you can see in, but she can't see you where you could watch for yourself and see? that would be good if they did. hard to believe sweet little ashtom would do that....especially when you know there are other situations (that are similar) and people report she was just fine.

the second does have to be a little tougher i know. poor things!

at least you are a teacher and understand the teacher and the parent side of the situation. i still like your 24 hour rule...i am going to remember that when ian starts school.

The Phams said...

Did you talk to the teacher yet?

Just bring her back home. It's not worth the headache. I think it's situational behavior! :)

Anonymous said...

calling your child a problem might be YOUR problem

The Phams said...

Whoever wrote that is just rude and obviously illiterate. Or maybe they are literate and just failed reading comprehension. In either case, the anonymous scaredy cat, should go back to school and leave you alone!

Texas Aggie in Florida said...

Hey "anonymous" DID YOU READ THE POST before you wrote that comment? Obviously not! The post is about how my child is NOT a problem but her teacher has made her out to be one. DUH! I have no tolerance for people who have no clue what they're talking about.

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